Meet in the middle

Having a two year old and adding a baby is a sure fire way to misplace your spouse. I don't mean Brad is lost some where in the wilderness, he's just not as close as he was pre-Tate.
Before I got pregnant Brad and I slept in the middle of our king sized bed. It was a nice arrangement and we had a routine. He'd spoon me til I fell asleep then roll onto his back and let me remain tucked in his armpit. This is what I consider true romance. A man who loves to stretch out and not have someone on top of him agreeing to sleep with a small person wedged in his back.
Once I became pregnant my hormones and newly heated state didn't allow for much cuddle time. I was too hot and Brad's body temp after nine pm is about two hundred degrees. So we hugged and said good night and remained on our separate sides of the bed.
Now that Tate is here she sleeps in the middle of the bed. Yes Dr Spock I know that "co-sleeping" is frowned upon because of the risk of rolling onto the baby. Tate sleeps in the middle in her box. It's a three sided box that serves as a small bassinet and keeps her safe from being rolled on, but it also keeps me from curling up into Brad.
So routines change after having a baby, earth shattering. But the changes aren't always bad. I like sharing a son and a daughter with my husband. I like having a little baby in the bed with me and I know it won't be forever. I am looking forward to spooning again with the world champion spoon-er, but it can wait.
We've adapted our bed time routine. Now I get Tate's diapers, Brad fills the humidifier, we both go check on Turner one last time, Brad puts Tate's socks on her while I brush my teeth, I do one last diaper change and feed baby girl. Then Brad stretches out as much as he can on his side of the bed. I lay facing the middle and my big bear of a husband stretches out his hand for me to hold. The angles involved prevent us from holding hands in the traditional position. It's more like a hand shake. But I think I have a pretty good deal so I am willing to "shake on it" every night before going to sleep.